I was always under the impression that C's school was generally a good one.
They very swiftly organised CAS involvement and everything that brings, and from that C has a fantastic paed and school nurse.
They are incredibly keen to show that they are an "inclusive school", which I felt was a good thing, as it shows an understanding of Autistic and AS kids and a need to help.
I am now beginning to find that all in the garden isn't smelling of roses and instead the smell is more like manure than beautiful flowers!!
As you know, I have been attending ASD sessions organised by the school with Outreach teachers from an Autistic school. It was not until Friday, when having a free and frank discussion with other parents and LEA reps that I find that other kids are being excluded and suspended for behaviours that are classic ASD. Surely a school which prides itself on being "inclusive" should punish the child as befits the crime as opposed to punishment for being ASD?
The LEA also suggested that we as parents weren't handling the triggers for our children's "meltdowns" or "outbursts" or whatever you wish to call them.
Like it's our fault.
This is exactly how the conversation went when I couldn't hold my tongue any longer:
"But what do you do when the demand is the trigger? She has PDA."
Silence
"You can't not ask her to do something in case it upsets her. That's ridiculous"
Silence
"So when she lashes out as she can't cope anymore, you'll exclude her"
Silence
Now I know that my problems are nothing compared to others on here, but I keep hearing bad things about this school. Only today I overheard a conversation between 2 mothers where one was saying that she'd had enough and her daughter wasn't coming back to this school. Not that was only a snapshot and it could have been for a myriad of reasons, but it doesn't help.
It seems that school are including the children but not their conditions. How is this fair?
If I leave her there, then the distinction between her and her classmates is going to get even bigger than it is already.
If I send her elsewhere, the situation could be worse and she'll be unhappy.
If I go with a previous thought, and home educate (something I am prepared to do) will being together 24/7 drive us both crazy?
I feel that she needs the other children around her, even if she doesn't take much notice of them, and I know she misses them during school holidays.
I am no longer happy for her to be there, but is it a case of better the devil you know?
It's not isolated cases with just one teacher either. C has already been called "selfish" by her teacher and I dislike intently the way they discuss her, with a silly little grin as if she's a joke.