Well they came, T showed his true colours with inappropriate behaviour and being aggressive towards me, i could see they were taken back and were watching closely.
SW started to say that T must go to school and its only been a week he has not attended and it may need to go on longer for something else to happen, hmm dont like the sound of that! So i said this is history repeating itself in regards to Ts school refusal and the last time my GP talked with EWO and asked for home tuition T was left for 6 months without an education. She quickly said no way would we leave it that long maybe 3 or 4 wks of him still refusing school would be enough for looking for alternative options.
SW then went on to say why is T refusing school (i am fed up to the back teeth repeating myself and i told them so!) so when i told her she said 'so do u encourage Ts negative talk about what is wrong with school?' my reply was 'are u mad?!' well i was fuming no way on this earth would i do that i told them and she replied that she has to ask these questions, still isnt nice to be scrutinised like this tho
I explained that i know for a fact that kids on the spectrum are forced into mainstream and clearly this has never worked for T since he started nursery sch aged 3 yrs 9 months to the present day, so if an EBD school is needed for him then so be it. I told them i wont have my son suffer for many more yrs struggling to conform to how people want him to, T needs to understand himself to cope with life and he will not get that in mainstream. I said the government closing special schools down and forcing kids into mainstream ISNT working if they cared to know the facts in the special needs world! All i got were looks but i dont care i will tell it how it is because i live it too, like many of us up & down the country.
As time was going on i could see i was making it known this is no run of the mill bad child behaviour or a result of my abuse but it is a developmental problem he has and this is like i have said before HISTORY REPEATING ITSELF! gosh when will they smell the coffee and in fact i did say people need to wake up and smell the coffee before its too late.
I explained about all the trouble with the kids in our area and how T doesnt cope with them, T went upstairs with 2 girls when they came and they could here how he spoke to them (well shouted at them) and he did hurt a girl and had her in tears (do they need to see anymore?!!!!) T then came in halfway through our discussions and again displayed VERY inappropriate behaviour even resulting in him telling them to leave our house now! Well that told em!
SW was saying that it would (in her opinion) go from being a child protection assessment to a child in need assessment, which is what it bloody should be! Also that they will refer T to Young Person Services (like a sessional worker) so that someone can come and take T out to do the things he wants to do. That fine in theory but time will tell if that goes well and i have said any incidents that happen in my home in result of him going needs to be recorded and what happens when out with this person needs to be recorded also, she said any incidents would be noted and the person who takes him out will be made aware of his behaviours.
So she said that things take time and sorry but thats they way things are, dont we bloody know it! I then said i had called CAHMS to get the ball rolling with them seeing T for themselves (new people to witness Ts difficulties) and i will be speaking with the lady who called me back last week but i was out at the time. They said they will happily speak with CAHMS in regards to what is happening with T and will try to do what they can where they can, they started to thaw out as the meeting progressed.
In the end they admitted that T behaviour was not normal or appropriate and they will call me within 2 weeks, we will see eh!
I then called CAHMS and got through to the lady i needed to spk to and i told her the whole story (in brief of course) and she let me know she has got Ts details on screen, also that T was discharged from CAHMS in my ex area in April 07!!!! WTF!!!!! how can they do that and not tell me? furthermore how can they do that before Ts report from Nottingham came through and how dare they attended a meeting in May to discuss behind my back that my parenting was the issue and possible abuse along with disregarding the recommendations of the report clearly stating CAHMS & myself work together in helping T! CAHMS said they would but how can they blatantly lie like that when he was long discharged back in April 07!!!!
The corruption gets worse and now i cant wait for it all to come out in the wash, i will be smelling just fine while they will stink rotten!!!!
they make me sick!! so as i see it they were all set for leaving T to rot and not give a toss! ignore Nottingham's findings and more than likely they were gonna take T off me, thank god i moved when i did, for Ts sake!
When CAHMS (in my new area) told me of this news not known to me i stressed my concerns about the whole thing, she said there is a 6 month period to which T can accepted again and she will need to speak to her manager about it and call me back today. Well the 6 months would be up at the end of this month, so i guess ive just found out in time that T was dishcarged without my knowledge they had better take T back on because i am in no mood for more fighting when he should be on the books anyway!
OK so thats it for now im off to nurse my cold and im run down i think, not suprising eh!